Hi Ladies, It's me again, Deb, Mrs. Detective. Ok, you have been separated, now you are divorced. For some of us this is so overwhelming. I again am speaking from experience.
BEWARE!!! Sometimes coming out of a marriage, you feel alone, depressed, maybe wondering if you are attractive.
When I got divorced I weighed 397 pounds. Ok, get back up in the chair and read your monitor…. I lost over 200pounds in one year. I still felt like I was ugly. OK…this is where the gigolo stepped in...
I was divorced with two kids, a house, a sick mother, and a mortgage. I was working three jobs, so I did not go out. I used to stay up late on the computer. Well, that is when I met my Texas Stud, or should I say dud.
I had already been thinking about picking up stakes and moving to Texas, I had an aunt there who was going to rent me a nice house, and help me make a fresh start. Well after talking to Studly on the internet, and chat rooms, I was convinced Texas was for me; mind you I had never left New England. Well to make a long story short, I found my mom an apartment that she liked better than my house anyways, sold the house, loaded a 24 foot truck with everything I owned, plus my 12 year old boy and 4 year old girl, and headed south. I forgot to say that my wonderful Studly flew up here to drive the "Big" truck, while I followed with the van.
LADIES, take my advice from one who knows, check a guy out before you meet him when you talk over the internet. Mr. and Mrs. Detective can help you with that. This is now one of our specialties. Studly of course stroked my ego, which had not felt that in a long time. Oh, you are so beautiful, intelligent, you deserve so much. He stroked my ego with his left hand and had his right hand in my pocket book. Well, I will cut to the chase, 6 months later I left Texas, with my van strapped on a dolly behind the 24 four foot truck, $10,000 poorer, and a hell of a lot wiser and tougher. My kids and I were heading home to New England. After having my windows smashed out of my van in Louisiana, going through Mississippi, almost having a crop dusting plane land on us, playing tag with a tornado in Alabama, having the back end of my van hit over the George Washington bridge, I was glad to see Rhode Island. I wish I had the good sense to check this guy out before going to Texas.
LEARN FROM MY MISTAKES!! Well, I came back and decided to work like crazy and focus on my kids…That lasted all of 3 months and I began to feel lonely again. Ok….I should have taken my own advice. I put an add on Love at AOL. I think that I learned something when I was in a very nice restaurant and the man across the table from me took his teeth out and put them in his pocket. I was better than this. I suddenly got my lost self esteem back. I wanted better, I deserved better. I may be pushing 40, but I wasn't pushing daisies yet. I had time to meet Mr. Right. Ladies, don't let anyone take your dignity away, you are beautiful, and unique.
