If Lauren could turn heads in perfectly aged jeans and a classic sweater, so could I. I committed to a diet and exercise plan, and vowed to drop the extra weight I’d taken to carrying around. If Lauren could have a toned and sexy body, then why not me? I held my head up and mimicked her confident air, and instantly felt stronger, sexier, and more alive than I had in years.
My revival is an ongoing process, and some days are honestly better than others. Every day I pass by that magazine cover taped to my wall and ask my avatar out loud, “How’m I doing?”. The other day I thought I heard the low sexy voice of a woman-of-a-certain-age say, “Just fine, sister. You’re doing just fine.” I could swear she even winked at me.
Ladies, choose your muse. Tina Turner? Sigourney Weaver? Pam Grier? Candace Bergen? Whether it be a movie star, a rock star, or an elegant woman who lives down the block, select a woman older than yourself who strikes you as especially vibrant, sexy, full of life. Hold her in your mind as you navigate this brand new phase of your life. Let her be your inspiration. Middle aged and divorced? Lucky you – now let the revival begin!
Analise Pendergast is a freelance writer specializing in topics of sexuality and relationships. Her features appear regularly on MSN.com’s Dating & Personals Department, as well as Match.com’s online love-zine, MatchScene. She also pens the advice column Ask Analise for SexHerald.com, and is the creator of a pioneering writing workshop for women called Sex, Lies, & Language. Her alter-ego, singer/songwriter Lisa McCormick, offers up original odes to love on her sultry CD, Mystery Girl : Eleven Songs of Love and Eros, which critics hailed as “The Best Make-Out Album of 2003” (sound samples available at www.LisaMcCormick.com). Comments and inquiries are welcome at AnalisePendergast@hotmail.com.
