Define the Audience.
Who is sitting in the front row? Who is up in the balcony? Remember, and this is very important, your ex is NOT in the audience either. He is not in the third balcony, and definitely not lingering backstage. He is outside in the pouring rain, clutching a tiny little yellow ticket that says “ADMISSION DENIED”. As long as you put him in the audience/supporting cast/or production team, you will look for his approval and judgment. Don’t do that – remember, this is YOUR show!!!
Choose a Venue (i.e. where you want to live).
You may want to skip town immediately. I drove to San Diego and back twice before I realized that I didn’t really want to live there. I realized that I had never been to so many places that I might love. Many women find it useful or even essential to leave the place they were living in prior to EX, but many, like me, realized that wherever you go there YOU are.
Lawyers, Doctors and Banks Oh My!
If there was a divorce settlement, get it firmed up with all the terms clearly defined. Don’t let things slip because months after the divorce your ex has officially erased you from his memory – along with the financial promises he made. Make sure you have your own bank account and a team of people to help you – a great accountant, lawyer, banker, real estate agent, etc. Even if you don’t think you need them right now – line them up. We have put together a list of things you might want to consider, along with LINKS to some hand picked professionals.
Show Time!
The plot for your very own personal Broadway Show has developed all kinds of twists and turns - beauty, travel, escape, romance, charity work, concerts, and women’s groups. You have a new supporting cast and perhaps a whole new audience. So many EXciting choices…, but now its time to launch this new EXtraordinary production!
